The family is a complex social unit, depending on the cultural, social and political context, it can take different forms, from single-parent families, homo-parental families, separated parents, adoptive, composite... Within each of the families, there are different elements that affect the situation and functioning, such as the so-called extended family, which is that part of the family outside the family nucleus, but which provides very important support in the daily routines of the family. A very important element of many family dynamics enters this extended family: grandparents.
Times have changed, nowadays both parents in most cases work and the conciliation... Oh the conciliation! Logistics at home with children is a real challenge and the role of grandparents becomes very important.
This role that grandparents have within families is not only about solving the most complicated moments of the day, such as picking up the children from school or having them spend a couple of hours in the afternoon while the parents finish their workday, The role of grandparents goes further. The bond that is generated between the child and the grandparents is unique and provides very rich and essential values for the child.
What types of grandparents exist?
Grandparents provide their own parenting style with children, which on many occasions needs to be agreed upon with the parents in order to avoid possible conflicts in the family environment. Neugarten and Weinstein conducted a study in which they classified the types of grandparents based on their parenting style. Here is a summary of their classification:
Do you recognize your parents/in-laws in any of these classifications? We are sure that yes, or even that you find that they are within several types.
In our years of experience in the different Happy Way schools, we can say that in most of the parenting consultations that we carry out with families, the topic of grandparents and the extended family is usually present in the conversations. That is why we believe it is necessary to share here the decalogue of the good grandfather:
Finally: thank you grandparents, for being present in any way in our lives, for making our lives a little easier and for giving so much love and tenderness to our little ones!